The last video I posted was titled 'Natural Hair is NOT for everyone' and I received an email from a concerned reader about whether the video was inferring that women with natural hair is better than relaxed hair.
Reader: This video promotes the idea that women with natural hair are more confident that women with relaxed hair and this is not true.
I really did not see that in the video. I honestly felt that she was addressing the psychological preparation necessary for a transition to natural hair. For example
1. Are you prepared for criticism from family or strangers?
2. Are you prepared to accept your hair texture for what it is and not what you think it should be?
Fair enough she did say that, 'Natural hair is not for sissies' but I think that it was just a jocular expression rather than a stab at everyone who is not natural. I do agree with the general principle that your hair should not break your spirit. I would rather that a woman maintained her relaxed hair and kept her confidence rather than go unprepared into a natural hair transition and develop low self esteem or low confidence issues.
In other words, the most important part of natural hair transitioning is the mental part. We women for a long time have tied a large part of our identity to our hair and to not address a major change in this is only preparation for failure.
In my opinion, confidence has nothing to do with hair or anything physical for that matter. It is actually an internal perception that sometimes we as humans wrongly tie in to physical attributes. The problem is once we tie confidence to things like hair, we have to take the time to unravel that knot and reinstate the internal balance that we should have.
You are ready to go natural when you are ready to be your own cheerleader because ultimately the only person who has live with your hair is you.
What did the video mean to you?