tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post7624020774783320533..comments2024-03-19T11:57:07.317+00:00Comments on THE NATURAL HAVEN: Reader Questions Week : RelaxersJchttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03983132094574128087noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-47077726314756502762014-05-30T15:30:38.185+01:002014-05-30T15:30:38.185+01:00I strongly believe children should not recieve rel...I strongly believe children should not recieve relaxers. My husband and I adopted a 4 y.o. from fostercare and I couldn't believe this little girl had a relaxer. It started with her birth family and the foster mother continued because she did not know how to transition her. I'm happy to say - she has been with us for almost a year and her hair looks so much healthier. Most of the relaxer is gone - I cut off a little from the ends every month and keep her hair moisturized. I've decided once I get her hair braided for the summer - I will cut off the remaining bits of the relaxer on her ends. I'm proud of how healthy her hair is now and she loves the styles I put in her hair. She is my doll. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03588607416863238555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-63058817570186318182012-01-18T10:37:55.099+00:002012-01-18T10:37:55.099+00:00@ Andrea and to anyone else out there who feels th...@ Andrea and to anyone else out there who feels that they are too old to go natural. <br /><br />Believe me it is never to late my mother did it at 40 and I am doing it right now at 30. I always thought that my hair was coarse, too thick, too unmanageable. But I love my new hair that is coming through it is beautiful and soft and curly.<br /><br />My hair is finally transforming into what God intended it to be.<br /><br />If anyone is on here lurking and thinking about going natural, just do it! Its the best decision I ever made about my hair.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-7542734409087851322009-07-18T09:54:31.620+01:002009-07-18T09:54:31.620+01:00My hair was relaxed for the first time when I was ...My hair was relaxed for the first time when I was almost 15, because my mother decided that I was old enough to do my own hair and I could not manage it. And I really did try. <br /><br />Even now, I wish I could deal with my hair without a relaxer in it, but I have absolutely no time, skill, or patience with my natural hair, and the last time I tried to go natural I cut my hair down to less than an inch and I still could not pull a comb through it wet or dry! (I thought my relaxed ends were standing in the way.)<br /><br />Now my hair is long again, and relaxed, and I'm too afraid to put myself through that again, even with all the new information I've acquired. Besides, most men do not like short hair and I feel too old to start over. <br /><br />I just wish I had been taught to take care of my natural hair when I was a teen, so I wouldn't feel trapped now.Andreanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-41007356393718681882009-06-08T20:24:11.957+01:002009-06-08T20:24:11.957+01:00lol Alice!!lol Alice!!Jchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03983132094574128087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-24039025811915175522009-06-08T19:48:39.286+01:002009-06-08T19:48:39.286+01:00I agree wholeheartedly! I would never allow relaxe...I agree wholeheartedly! I would never allow relaxers near my hair again. Yeah they are villified but with good reason - lets face it, the process itself is inherently damaging to hair, rendering it weak and defenceless. And this is with perfect applications but let us be honest, how common is it for the application process be termed perfect - that is - protecting scalp and hairline, making sure there is no overlap, not leaving it on for too long, rinsing carefully enough times etc. Yet so many women end up with scalp burns, hair loss, hair sticking on scalp, etc so it appears the concept of perfect application is just that. <br />Relaxing did my hair and scalp a lot of harm and I take full responsibility for the mess I found myself in, thank goodness I stopped the madness and have been nursing my abused hair back to life. I would not DREAM of putting a child through the ordeal.Didinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-62450197086739108352009-06-08T18:59:04.125+01:002009-06-08T18:59:04.125+01:00Thanks for answering my question, JC!!
I also agre...Thanks for answering my question, JC!!<br />I also agree - Children should not have relaxers at all!!Gillainenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-21090824437087378632009-06-08T18:50:36.061+01:002009-06-08T18:50:36.061+01:00I am openly against anyone under 13 getting a rela...I am openly against anyone under 13 getting a relaxer. I voluenterred at a summer camp and it KILLED me to see these girls with missing edges running away from a sprinkler when it's close to 37C/100F outside because they don't want to "ruin their hair" at SIX. SIX!! At six I was still making mud pies!<br /><br />It just kills me. <br /><br />Is it possible for hydrogen sulfide posining and causing green tinted brains from a source NOT a relaxer helped cause the myth? I know the chemical is present in volcanos and swamps so in THEORY could posining from either source cause green brains --> oh, that's in my relaxer--> OMG GREEN BRAIN IN DEATH!!--> I NEED TO TELL EVERYONE I KNOW ONLINE!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05022229899992637961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-66537654294873215092009-06-08T17:10:15.539+01:002009-06-08T17:10:15.539+01:00@ Anon - I have not heard of hair undergoing chang...@ Anon - I have not heard of hair undergoing changes at puberty. I know that pregnant women can have changes to hair growth and shedding rates but I haven't heard of changes to hair texture. I will have to investigate this further<br /><br />@Leslie - Thanks for sharing. I think it was an awful experience and really solidifies for me the the fact that children shouldn't have a relaxerJchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03983132094574128087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-57089473411810802082009-06-08T16:39:15.462+01:002009-06-08T16:39:15.462+01:00I got my first relaxer at 4. Yes FOUR years old. ...I got my first relaxer at 4. Yes FOUR years old. My mother feels bad but I had hair down my back and it was torture to style in the mornings. We would both leave the house in tears. If only she had known about detangling with conditioner and styles that could be done once weekly....ahh we live and we learn. I would say DON'T RELAX YOUR CHILD'S HAIR!!!!! I had burns so bad sometimes over half my scalp was covered in scabs. I thought it was my fault for scratching too much, like I was being punished for scratching my scalp pre-relaxer. How RIDICULOUS!Naturally Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482449859501815552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356365023823603303.post-31832528432049482992009-06-08T15:52:31.380+01:002009-06-08T15:52:31.380+01:00The reason we say this in the beauty industry is t...The reason we say this in the beauty industry is that your hair goes through many hormonal changes before during and after puberty. It starts one way and ends up another just as during pregnancy. This is an ideal time to encourgae beaking and shedding with harsh chemicals. It is the equivalent if getting implants at 15 when the breasts have not had a chance to fully form. Not to mention that from 5-18 (if youre lucky) those girls don't know what they want. It changes daily and is usually dictated by someone else, so why put a permanent chemical on a childs hair for them to have to maybe hate it one day?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com